The truth is that we need other people.  According to a recent Cigna study the American individual is a lonely isolated person.  Just a couple of findings from the study-

  • Only around half of Americans have meaningful in-person social interactions, such as having an extended conversation with a friend or spending quality time with family on a daily basis.
  • Nearly half of Americans report sometimes or always feeling alone (46 percent) or left out (47 percent).
  • Two in Five Americans sometimes or always feel that their relationships are not meaningful (43 percent) and that they are isolated from others (43 percent).

What’s In It For Me?

The Cigna study goes on to contend that “mental awareness” and vitality are directly related to a connected mind and body and connecting mind and body is directly related to engagement with other people.  In short, we find excitement with other people and that absolutely leads to an adventure of sort.  Opening up the mind to other people’s thinking can stimulate our own thoughts, beliefs and dreams.  The mind rules the body so stimulate the mind stimulate the body.  It’s a win/win!

Ok so let’s not dwell on the bad news.  We know the problem so let’s talk about solutions!


The “Be” in “Be Your Adventure” is a verb. In fact, we think of it as an action verb, because to be your adventure means taking action that moves your life in a positive direct. Labs are how that happens. Choose one (or more!) of the labs below as a way to take action on this topic! Learn more about labs.

Lab #1: “Two Double Espressos, Please” 

Challenge yourself to choose two Facebook friends (one at a time or no more than two) and invite them out to a favorite coffee house.  Somewhere comfortable, inviting and bustling with people.  The goal is to be a friend in how you converse with them.  Show them that you care.  The idea is to see someone face to face and find out  more about how life is treating them.  Turn the question, “How are you doing?” into, “How are you really doing?”  Listen and engage.

Lab #2: Buy A Picnic Table! 

This works well for just about any budget.   Zip down to your local hardware store and pick up a traditional one.   You know how you see people in a park with lots of food stacked up on the picnic table?  It looks like fun because it IS fun! People hanging out, eating and laughing.  Well, you can create this experience at home with some neighbors or new friends (maybe the FB friends you’re getting to know better in person!)  A traditional picnic table screams “Come on over, let’s hang out and eat!”  Take the formality out of a dinner party.  “Stuffy” doesn’t work when building relationships. 


Now that you’ve taken action by choosing one or more of the labs and trying it/them out, the “Postgame” is how you share your results—including any insights you may have gained—with the community. Learn more about postgame reports.

  1. What did you find out about your friends?  How did you feel when you left the coffee house?
  2. Who came to the picnic? Did you see a difference in how people acted around each other?  Was it a positive experience?

The bottom line is this: Don’t go it alone.  Fight isolation.  Reach out to others in creative ways that are challenging and exciting.  Learn how to Be Your Adventure in relationships!


Val Oechslin

Creator, Be Your Adventure

Val Oechslin is passionate about helping people reach new heights, overcome obstacles, and become the person they’ve always dreamed of being. An artist, filmmaker, storyteller, and vision coach, Val makes her home in Bozeman, Montana with her husband, Tom.

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