Yeah, that’s funny. We’ve all been in situations where we’ve had a choice: lie and make life easier or tell the truth, the whole truth, nothing but the truth. Yup. 😳
You know, we all believe ourselves to be truthful. But I challenge you today to take a closer peek at yourself and ask, “Am I truthful in all areas of my life?”
Your girlfriend asks you, “Does this dress make me look fat?” Your best friend inquires, “People don’t seem to want to stand too close to me, do I have bad breath or body odor?” These kind of questions make us cringe because we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, but, also, if we’re truthful, it makes US feel uncomfortable and we’d rather avoid that.
But are these “little white lies” keeping us and that person from something better?
To lie is recoil from relationship. (Lying, Sam Harris) Let that sink in for a moment. Could telling little white lies actually harm you in the long run by cutting off deeper, truer, and better relationships?
I do understand there is the other side to this honesty coin as there is time and a place to share things, and that is wisdom. This post is meant to make you think about how being totally honest can improve your relationships. “Kind” honesty is the goal here!
What’s In It For Me?
Look at it this way, building truthfulness and honesty in your life will allow you to experience deeper relationships and build greater credibility and reliability with others… this is a GOOD thing.
The “Be” in “Be Your Adventure” is a verb. In fact, we think of it as an action verb, because to be your adventure means taking action that moves your life in a positive direct. Labs are how that happens. Choose one (or more!) of the labs below as a way to take action on this topic! Learn more about labs.
Lab #1: The Mirror of Honesty
Ohhh, sounds a little intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. Take a week and do an inventory of all the situations and conversations you’re having and take note of when you are, perhaps, stretching the truth, avoiding the truth, or telling a little white lie. Think about these situations and replay them in your mind with more kind honesty. This will give you practice for the next lab!
Lab #2: Just Say It!
O.K. it’s time to dive into the truth pool and start swimming! Take 3 days and be as honest as you can with everyone. I know, it sounds hard, but you can do it! Be kind, but be honest!
Now that you’ve taken action by choosing one or more of the labs and trying it/them out, the “Postgame” is how you share your results—including any insights you may have gained—with the community. Learn more about postgame reports.
- Did you find yourself telling more white lies or shielding your true thoughts from others more than you thought you would during your Mirror of Honesty week? Did practicing the scenarios in your mind help you for the Just Say It Lab?
- O.K…I know this one was hard, but did your total honesty result in a changed relationship? Better or worse? If better, why? If worse, why?
Lies are the social equivalent of toxic waste. Conversely, honesty is a gift we can give to others. (Lying, Sam Harris) Start sharing the gift of kind honesty with others today! And be sure to let us know how you’re doing!
Creator, Be Your Adventure
Val Oechslin is passionate about helping people reach new heights, overcome obstacles, and become the person they’ve always dreamed of being. An artist, filmmaker, storyteller, and vision coach, Val makes her home in Bozeman, Montana with her husband, Tom.